1. Playing the long game

   Before you even start planning your proposal, talk about marriage with your partner. You can absolutely discuss your future together and still keep the actual proposal a surprise.

   Ask casual questions over time, months before the big day, to learn what they envision. Would they prefer a private, intimate moment or something surrounded by friends and family? Do they want a photographer there? A big celebration or a quiet night in?

   One easy way to bring it up is by sharing TikToks or celebrity proposal videos and asking what they think. Their reactions will give you genuine insight into what feels right for them. Keep notes. The best proposals are rooted in your partner’s preferences, not someone else’s highlight reel.

   💭 Bonus tip: If your partner is more traditional, they might want you to ask their family for their blessing. There’s no single right way. Just tune in to what matters most to them.

2. Make it Meaningful

   Choose a location that feels like you two. Maybe it’s where you had your first date, said “I love you,” or shared a defining moment. Or maybe it’s somewhere new, a place that marks the start of your next adventure.

   Do a little research. If you’re heading to a national park or scenic area, check for permits, closures, or reservation requirements. You don’t want to find out Yosemite is on a limited entry day when you’ve got a ring in your pocket.

   When my wife proposed to me, she tried to revisit a scenic overlook from one of our first dates. But when we couldn’t find it, she pulled over into a random meadow instead. Luckily, it turned out beautifully and made for a sweet story. That said, the moment would have been even smoother if she had checked the location in advance or brought in a professional to help plan the timeline and setup.

   One of my favorite ways to help couples get dressed up naturally is by planning a fake “dinner party,” a birthday celebration, or a spontaneous date night. It gives you a reason to look your best without raising suspicion — and it helps set the stage for amazing photos.

3. Plan the Details (and a Backup Plan!)

   If you’re wondering how to plan a proposal that feels seamless and special, it all comes down to the details. Once you’ve got your idea, start crafting a backstory. You’ll want to cover your tracks if your partner gets suspicious, especially if you’re traveling or hiding a ring.

   Loop in anyone who’s part of the plan, like friends, family, or your photographer, so everything flows smoothly.

   Think about thoughtful touches:

   • Schedule a manicure if your partner loves having their nails done
   • Decide whether to include friends and family or keep it private
   • Choose how you’ll celebrate: a dinner for two, a weekend getaway, or a surprise party waiting at home

   And always have a Plan B. Weather, crowds, or timing can throw things off. Flexibility turns hiccups into the best kind of stories.

4. Communicate (But Keep the Secret!)

   If others are involved, communication is everything. Whether you’re working with a photographer, an event designer, or a few close friends, make sure everyone knows the timeline and their role.

   Be strategic, though. The more people who know, the more likely your secret will slip. Share only what’s needed.

5. Hire Professionals

   You only get one shot to capture that moment of surprise and emotion. Hiring a professional photographer means you’ll have beautiful, timeless images of your proposal. Every laugh, tear, and “yes.”

   Your photographer can also help you plan logistics like lighting, angles, and timing. And if you’re dreaming of a styled setup, an event designer can bring your vision to life, from candles and florals to behind the scenes coordination.

    

Real Life Proposals I’ve Captured

Here are a few stories from couples who made their proposals uniquely theirs:

Elissa + Jess

Jess had already proposed to Elissa before their session, but Elissa wanted her own moment too. During their shoot, we used one of my favorite “kidnap poses,” where one partner sneaks up behind the other for a surprise hug. This time with a ring. Pure joy.

Matt + Justin

Justin planned a surprise proposal during their couples session in a downtown Fresno loft. We scouted the perfect spot together, intimate and full of city light, and he nailed it. Candles, atmosphere, emotion. It was elegant and unforgettable.

Bre + Nichole

Bre was nervous about how it would all unfold, so we came up with a game plan. We secretly exchanged the ring box at the start of the session, and halfway through, I “switched lenses” to hand it off. Nichole never saw it coming, and the surprise was perfect.

Nikki + Carol

Carol wanted to propose in Yosemite. The park gave us a rainstorm and snow just to keep things interesting. Despite the weather, they danced between headlights and moonlight before Carol got down on one knee. Soaked, freezing, and grinning. It was everything.

Final Thoughts

Still wondering how to plan a proposal that feels perfectly you? Just remember this: it doesn’t have to be flawless. It just has to be heartfelt. When it comes from a place of love and intention, it will be a story you’ll never forget.

💬 Ready to start planning your own surprise proposal? I’d love to help you capture it. [Reach out here] to inquire about proposal sessions or just brainstorm ideas with someone who’s seen it all.